Other People’s Words: Friendship, Loss, and the Conversations That Never End (Hardback)
Lissa Soep (author)Published: 30/05/2024
What if the great love of your life is friendship?
In their twenties, Lissa Soep and her boyfriend forged deep friendships with two other couples—Mercy and Christine; and Emily and Jonnie—until, decades later, Jonnie died suddenly, in an accident, and Christine passed away after a mysterious illness. Christine had been a writer, Jonnie a storyteller. Lissa couldn’t imagine a world without their letters, postcards, texts—a world without their voices. Then she found comfort in a surprising place. As a graduate student, she had studied the philosophy of the Russian critic Mikhail Bakhtin, who wrote about the many voices that can echo through a single person’s speech. Suddenly, Bakhtin’s theory that our language is “filled to overflowing with other people’s words” came to life. Lissa began hearing Jonnie and Christine when least expected. In a conversation with Emily, a familiar phrase was spoken, and suddenly, there was Jonnie, with his riotous laugh, vibrant in her mind. Mercy recited an Adrienne Rich poem in just the way Christine used to and, for a moment, Christine was with them in the room.
Other People’s Words shows us how we carry within us the language of loved ones who are gone, and how their words can be portals to other times and places. Language—as with love—is boundless, and Other People’s Words is an intimate, original, and profoundly generous look at its power to nurture life amid the wreckage of grief. Dialogues do not end when a friendship or person is gone; instead, they accrue new layers of meaning, showing how the conversations we share with those we love continue after them, and will continue after us.
Publisher: Spiegel & Grau LLC
ISBN: 9781954118355
Number of pages: 160
Dimensions: 210 x 140 mm
MEDIA REVIEWS
“Remarkable . . . A profound meditation on the first-order experiences of life: friendship, love, death, carrying on in the face of great tragedy. This is a book to help you remember what is meaningful in this life.”—Alexis Madrigal, Forum (KQED-FM) “Engaging and deeply thoughtful.”—San Francisco Chronicle“Moving . . . Anyone who has lost a loved one and still seeks their voice will appreciate this pensive book.”—Booklist“Other People's Words is an essential meditation on the relationship between love, loss, and language. How does speech undo the boundaries between you and me, between self and other? How do we create ourselves, and our intimacies, through our words? This book will fundamentally change how, and for whom, you speak.”—Cyrus Dunham, author of A Year Without a Name“It’s rare to find a book like Other People’s Words, which creates its own delicate atmosphere and populates it with such unforced care that every blade of grass, and every word, seems to glow with its own mysterious purpose, only to discover that you are yourself inside that little world, breathing its air, which is all around you, and that one of its mysterious purposes is you.”—Jonathan Rosen, author of The Best Minds“Lissa Soep has given us a gift with this book. It is a treasure map to meaning in life’s hardest moments and the exact book on grief I desperately needed. She is a celebrator of life, and, in so doing, shows us that love lives on forever.”—Laurel Braitman, author of What Looks Like Bravery: A Story of Friendship, Madness, and the Tragedy of Good Intentions“A moving meditation on the role of language in mitigating grief and loss.”—Amy Fusselman, author of Savage Park“Other People’s Words illustrates how absurd the illusion is that we are separate. We don’t just whisper into each other’s ears; rather we speak to, through, for, and as each other. This book grapples beautifully with that truth and is genuinely enlightening. Just magnificent.”—Rob Delaney, author of the New York Times bestseller, A Heart That Works“Other People’s Words is one of those books that changes you forever. Now I can hear the ‘double voicing’ in my own life: the ways the language of my past—of dear friends and family—has fused into and shapes the language of my present; how it keeps people I have lost with me always.”—Peggy Orenstein
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